How many wedding songs do you need?
Do I seriously need a song for the cake-cutting? Which one’s the processional/recessional?
Can’t I just high-kick my way down the aisle to The Ramones?
Dear god of wedding madness, what is an appropriate song for a bouquet toss?!
Welcome to the world of totally unnecessary wedding song stress. If you’re stuck wondering how many wedding songs you need to pick for your big day, we’re here to throw you a lifeline.
Spoiler alert: there's only 2 must-haves, and a couple of optionals.
The traditional 'must-have' wedding song list
If you’ve worked your way through the dry google results on the matter, you’ve probably seen a long, dull list of wedding formalities you need to create a soundtrack to.
Here’s what a very conservative, yawn-inducing wedding song list looks like:
That’s 14 specially selected songs to accompany traditional wedding formalities.
If you think that's ridiculous, you're in good company.
It's not a musical, it's your marriage, right? You don't need to bore your guests with this much fluff. And you don't need to put yourself through it either.
Without too much stress, we can cut more than half of these token gestures. That leaves your brain free to plan music for the truly important moments.
Let’s look at what we can toss out...
Ceremony song moments that mean nothing
The bridal party processional
If you have a horrendously large bridal party, you’ll need an extra processional song to get them all down the aisle. It’s purely a time thing. Modern songs don’t tend to loop forever like classical ones. If you don’t have an army of people walking down the aisle, you can probably do away with this.
Signing the registry
Signing the registry traditionally happens in the middle of the ceremony. It takes 6-10 minutes, so that’s two special songs you have to select. Then the celebrant motions the guests to fidget and pass time while the special paperwork happens. Nobody hears your painstakingly selected soundtrack over the awkward chatter, and nobody pays attention to your ability to sign your name. The alternative? Some savvy celebrants are opting to sign paperwork after the ceremony. That means you save your ceremony the pointless lull in the middle and save yourself picking two special songs nobody was ever going to hear.
Reception song moments you can skip
Ok, now you've taken your photos, and you're ready to join your guests. If you fancy yourself a wrestler, you might choose an epic entrance song. But you could just as easily ditch it and walk back to your guests without needing a soundtrack accompanying your every move. Many couples prefer this, giving them a chance to mingle post-photos without all the hoopla.
Father-daughter dance + mother-son dance + wedding party dance
So after you dance with your partner, then you dance with your dad, then he dances with his mum, then your bridal party has a special dance too. You know, like a school deb. Really? Do your guests want to watch all that? You’d better have choreographed some absolute magic. Or perhaps that’s 3 more song formalities we can knock out right there?
Cake Cutting + Bouquet Toss + Garter Toss
Oh, the wedding planners must be cursing us right now, but we’re taking a stance. You just don’t need a song for any of these moments, should you even choose to have them at all. I mean, garter toss, really?! What song would be appropriate for that moment? Can we even call that moment appropriate? Can we just cut the cake into giant hand-sized pieces and get back to dancing please? You sure can dudes.
So there you go. A fistful of totally unnecessary theme songs for some rather outdated practices. Bam! Kick 'em to the curb.
And you know what?
You’ve just cut a full hour of meaningless wedding formalities from your special day.
Not to mention the days you've saved yourself googling for love song lyrics that aren’t totes inappropes. NOW you have time to focus on the big stuff..
Meet the duo who broke the rule book
Hey folks, we're Fidel & Sarah - non-traditional wedding music specialists.
Couples who hire us as their wedding band are alternative, non-conforming, rebellious music lovers who want their big day to be unique, memorable and totally personal.
We encourage them to simplify, cut the formalities they don't believe in, and focus on the songs and moments that'll bring them the biggest joy.
The bare necessities approach to choosing wedding songs
We propose an alternative to the over-the-top wedding song selection nightmare.
You only really need TWO wedding songs - your processional (walk-in) and recessional (walk-out) song. That's it.
Everything else is optional.
But to be fair, the ideal wedding song list looks like this:
That's it. Three great songs during your ceremony, and two for your reception music.
Now, of course that’s not all the music you’ll have at your wedding. It simply means you can reduce the stress of picking specific songs to accompany your special moments.
Choose an awesome live band who play the kinda music you love, and let them take care of the rest. And you can enjoy selecting the key songs that will be most meaningful/adorable for you.
Let's go over the special few worth making 'yours'.
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